Respect & Love: the key to be a blessed marriage

Assalamu Alaikum, brothers and sisters! This blog is about marriage and how it can be a beautiful thing when done the way Allah intended. There are some key points worth considering for all the brothers and sisters out there, insha’Allah.

Men and women aren’t the same — that’s a blessing from the Creator – Allah. The Qur’an states, “And the male is not like the female” (Surah Aal-E-Imran, 3:36), and the Prophet Muxamed (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) taught, “Women are the twin halves of men” (Sunan Abi Dawud). They’re different, like two halves designed to complement each other, not mirror images. Men are naturally the protectors and providers — the Qur’an mentions, “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women” (Surah An-Nisa, 4:34) — while women bring strengths that balance this perfectly. When everyone embraces their roles, homes flourish, children grow strong, and the Ummah thrives too. However, if those roles are confused or resisted, things begin to fall apart.

For the brothers, the greatest need from their wives is RESPECT. It’s what fuels them — knowing she trusts them and values their efforts. A hadith from the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) notes that if prostration were permitted, it would be a wife to her husband for the respect she owes (Sahih Bukhari, Muslim) — not to diminish her, but to highlight how essential that respect is. For the sisters, it’s all about LOVE. They need to feel it consistently, to know they’re cherished and a priority, much like how the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) cared for ‘Aisha (radiyallahu ‘anha) and his other wives.

So, how can they put this into practice? Sisters should trust their husband’s decisions — allowing him to stumble and learn, avoiding harsh words, keeping a gentle tone, and never mocking his honour in public. This builds him up to be the man Allah intended. Brothers should express love — saying “I love you,” praising her efforts and beauty, spending quality time with her, listening with empathy, and remembering special occasions. This reassures her she’s valued and secure, insha’Allah.

The wonder of it lies in its flow. When a wife respects her husband, he naturally responds with love. When a husband loves his wife, she offers respect in return. It’s a blessed partnership, a mutual exchange rooted in the Qur’an and Sunnah. Marriage needn’t be difficult when they follow this path — respect and love keep it harmonious.

What do the brothers and sisters think? May Allah grant their marriages peace and a gateway to Jannah. Ameen! Until the next post, insha’Allah. Salaam!